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From: rhendel@mcs.drexel.edu (Russell Hendel) Date: Mon, 2 Dec 1996 20:22:19 -0500 Subject: Get/Agunah Lists In Vol 25 #27 anonymous raises an old (mail)jewish theme---the plight of men/women who do not give/receive gets. She has a simple partial solution: >>lists ..of men (and women) who have either not given or accepted Gets>> I am sure we all sympathize with her plight. I would like to accentuate the question not only from a (rightful) emotional point of view but from an HALACHIC point of view. Can any POSAYK out there give me one good reason why such lists should not be routinely posted on shule bulletin boards. I understand mail jewish has a 1000-2000 subscription. If 1 out of every 10 of us pestered our synagogues to participate in such a list wouldn't it help alot of people. I am reminded by analogy of a story in a Young Israel where I davened a few years ago. Two bakeries on pesach had promised---one in writing and one orally--that they would not start baking bread till after Yom Tov (Pesach). Well, we had a committee...a group of people went over and peeked thru windows and came back with a report. It turned out that the bakery who promised us in writing lied and the other bakery kept its word. The Rabbi quickly announced the result from the pulpit and the congregation did not buy from the baker that lied. The point? Shouldn't we treat our women at least as nicely as we treat our food? Why are we so avid about Kashruth and blithely ignore situations that lead at the very least to great emotional pain and at very most to leaving Judaism, and God forbid, Mamzayruth. I reiterate that my point is halachic (not (only) emotional). Aren't people who can prevent a sin responsible if that sin happens. The avayrahs involved are Don't cause emotional anguish (depriving someone of the right to marry) Don't put a stumbling block before the blind (even if these tied up women don't sin they are still being placed in a stumbling situation) The law to give charity (which includes finding mates) Love thy neighbor as thyself (just because it is a cliche doesn't mean it doesn't apply) and finally if I am permitted "halachic lisence" it possibly also involves the prohibition of hurting widows (since in Samuel during Avshalom's rebellion the women he raped were call "living widows" since King David never knew them again). All that is being asked for is not a black list or hit list or who is picking up girls but a simple list of people who were asked to give divorces (or Chalizah) and refused. With all the email bulletin boards that exist I should think that maintaining such a database once it is set up (with a possible provisio to erase the names of offenders after they gave the divorce /chalizah) would not even cost to much I hope the above inspires someone with authority into action. Russell Jay Hendel, Ph.d., ASA, rhendel @ mcs drexel edu