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From: Russell Hendel <rhendel@saber.towson.edu>
Date: Sun, 28 Nov 1999 23:58:41 -0500 (EST)
Subject: Tzniuth vs Other Middoth

In Volume 30 Number 15 Yeshaya HaLevi writes
>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Russel Hendel writes:
 << if you don't normally say HELLO but you say HELLO to a married woman
we are not worried about sin or even arousal, rather we are concerned
that you have broken your borders of modesty >>

         But on the other hand, this removes this person from the chance
of improving his derekh ertetz (respect) and darkay shalom ("peaceful
path") to a fellow human being.
<<<<<<<<<<<<<

Ah...but that is the WHOLE point of Tzniuth--it takes precedence over
other nice values. That is why eg. you don't go to an opera even though
it is "good" to hear music, you abstain when your wife is a Niddah even
though it is nice to be caring thru intimacy, and you don't say Hello TO
SOMEONE YOU NORMALLY HAVEN"T BEEN SAYING HELLO TO even though you could
use some improvement in social relations (indeed, if you had wanted to
improve your social skills why did you wait to improve them till you
found a married woman).

Russell Jay Hendel; Phd ASA; http://www.shamash.org/rashi/