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From: Russell Hendel <rhendel@saber.towson.edu> Date: Sun, 30 Jan 2000 22:56:34 -0500 (EST) Subject: 3 Chilling Stories About College Affecting People Bill Burstein (v31n22) offers the following insights about college << (..speaking to a Holocast survivor) he mentioned he was from Poland and had been through the war. I asked, I see you're religious. Why is it so many people from religious homes dropped it after the war but you've continued on?" He answered, whatever someone was when they went into the camps, that's how they came out." So maybe college is not really the problem after all. >> STORY #1 Allow me to tell 3 stories contradicting this. The Rav (Soloveitchick) tells of a man whose daughter was accepted to a good school without a jewish population. He asked the Rav "Should I let my daughter go there?". "No" said the Rav. "But she will be vegetarian and stay in her room on shabbath...." "Would you have let your daughter grow up among non-jews?", asked the Rav, "My answer is still no." 4 years later this same man called the Rav "Rabbi Soloveitchick please help me...my daughter is engaged to marry an Indian" (Sorry...but there was no happy ending to this story) STORY #2 My Tnach Teacher, Rabbi Amnon Haramati of Yeshiva Flatbush told me that although he used to encourage acceptance to out of state colleges he no longer did so because of the great changes that had taken place and the increased exposure and pressures. STORY #3 My mother Perl Hendel explained to me once that while she did not mind my going to an out of state college she nevertheless would not trust some of my other siblings to go out of state. She explained that they were very impressionable while I was very strong in my beliefs under outside pressure. (My mother also had checked that there was a Jewish college community) Bottom line, according to my mother, College can change some people and every responsible parent should assess their situation individually. Russell Hendel; Phd; ASA; Math Towson; Moderator Rashi Is Simple http://www.shamash.org/rashi/